DOES YOUR MOTHER REALLY LOVE YOU?

I may not be a Mother yet,

But I am some ones Child.

I chose to use an image of a mother lioness. To me, this represents the strength in a Mothers Love. However, Not all mothers know how to love. A Mothers love is paramount to a Childs growth. When Children are born, the first stage of their early life, they only can read ENERGY VIBRATIONS. Only scales of emotions they go off of. This is why its so important for mothers to become fully aware of the vibes they project their children to starting early off in their child's life continuing through out.  You are they're protector. You have been selected to guide, and instruct an entire life! One you created through love or the in the pursuit of love. That’s big stuff! It is bigger then getting a raise or promotion in your job. Bigger then who you are in the streets, bigger then any job or dream you’re chasing. Becoming a Mother or Father is the biggest task to be chosen to preform in this life.

Your child is sensitive to things you may not even be aware of. As a childless woman, I have witnessed a lot of my friends become mothers around me. I also recall the way my friends were raised by their mothers, and myself as well. This allowed me to see clearly as to how our mothers have directly impacted the way we love others, even our own children.

When I was a little girl. My mom was a safety for me . I depended so much on the love she had. When ever I felt un safe or uncomfortable; the strongest desire that overshadowed other ones I had was the need to be in my mothers arms. I Still till this day experience this desire at the age of 32.

This makes me start to think about how many woman and men never had a mother to love them or show them how to love in return. And I became empathetic to that.

As a human, we can't be too different. Perceptions are individual, yes. However, Perception is altered according to ones own mental conditioning.

So if you’re reading this, and think to yourself... Well, Janessa... I never had a mother and I am fine with out a mothers love. I would say to you, your feelings are valid for you, and no matter if you realize it or not... You have conditioned yourself to be self-reliant. That is a survival tactic that you have been exercising and making strong in your subconscious.  This stems from every time you did have that desire to run into a loving mothers embrace. but felt the pain of lacking that . You may have told your self over and over, "you don't need it , you don't care, you won't ever trust people".. Etc. This was you CONDITIONING YOURSELF.

Some of us had mothers who may have been cold. They may have been distant, or stand offish, and aloof.  Some of us have mothers who were hoverers, codependents, enablers, over bearing and rigid with rules. Some had moms who were too open, and free with us, and treated us more like friends rather then children. Some had mothers who hurt them on many abusive levels, and some just don't have mothers or anyone trying to be that figure for them.

The Love of a mother is what builds the foundation that we take over and begin to build the structure of our life upon.  No matter what the father has done, what he has become, and where he is should never determine the type of Mother you become. Take responsibility for the CHOICES you made in life. Understand that even the father may be trying to find himself and wish him luck on that journey instead of tarnishing him for not knowing how to love you the way you THOUGHT u needed him to. Wishing him luck is not taking from you, it is adding to the life of the father that will hopefully one day reflect onto your child's life and the way they love in the future.

However, If your children's dad turns out to not care, or be affected or doesn't know how to love in the light you'd like him to... Consider this: He may have not had the best love of his mother. And he is only living off of his CONDITIONING. As we all have been doing since the beginning of time. No one is exempt from that. You may be conditioned to judge and hold grudges. So he is no better then you by following his conditions. And you no better then him simply because you have to be with the child by default, or because you provide financially for your child. That is not something you value in comparison to how the father behaves or plays his role.

Just because you can understand and discern the proper way a parent "SHOULD" behave. Depending on your energy projection, you maybe adding to the foundation of your children and may have unknowingly, installed a layer of hate, fear, and anger. This is not an excuse for any ones behavior/choices. However, this idea can give us deeper understanding as to why it is the way it is, and this can help you love on your babies in a full and healthy way.

We all have begun to build that structure of our lives ON TOP of what our mothers/fathers/grand folks have already installed in us. This is not for us to continue the cycle of low levels of love. Becoming aware may be able to limit the cycle of un-healthy conditioning.  Giving 100% of your energy to your child instead of 37% of love to your child. And expose them to the 63% of fear you have in your heart for the circumstance you may currently be in. or 63% percent of you loving your self and projecting energy that implements selfish behavior.

Janessa Rose Perez