TO FORGIVE OR NOT FORGIVE 

By: Janessa Rose Perez

Sometimes forgiveness is the most hardest thing to master. Where there may be circumstances we can forgive easily. There are also some circumstances that seem unforgivable. What is that need we have?  What is the need to judge the severity of circumstances, in order to determine if they can be forgiven or not?

I begin to wonder, what does that "with holding" of forgiveness do to us on the inside, on a spiritual or emotional level.

Not being able to forgive something can cause a blockage in spiritual progression.  It's almost as if by some magical source, Forgiveness is the key to making your growth process a lot more pleasant.  Things happen to us. This is how most of perceive the things that occur. But what if these things were happening FOR us?

I have endured several things that I personally feel were wrongs against me with out cause. Some are forgivable. Some are harder to forgive. I like to imagine that anything can be forgiven. Depending on the state of mind of the forgiver and the perception they may have. But I have come to learn that when I don't forgive, I come from a very fearful place. I am angry; I relive the situation over and over again. Becoming more and more angry about the circumstance. The pain has been stopped after I endured whatever situation I may have felt was unforgivable. But every time I think about it, or something reminds me of it. There the pain is again. I give it power over and over again. Allowing it to hurt me continuously.

This has cause me to fear for too long. Holding on to reasons to feel victimized by the wrongs against me. Then, I began to forgive the things that happened. The people I felt wronged me . And most importantly, I realized, I also had to forgive myself.

The anger in me from all the pain in my heart kept me from seeing clearly that the fear was keeping me from growing. All the shit that was occurring was not happening to me. It was happening for me.

Now that I realize that every one who is put in my life is a reflection of something in myself I need to become aware of.  Its easier to forgive them if I feel offended by something they may be doing or saying. Now I ask myself, what lesson can I learn during from this experience? This usually results in a lesson about myself. I began to see something in myself, and my own choice in my behavior. Which gives rise to emotional impact. With this new perception, you can make healthier choices.

When I say healthier choices, I mean for our growth as a person.

To be able to come from a place where you are choosey about what you give your energy to.

Forgiving the wrongs against you does not mean your feelings about the wrongs done are in valid.

It simply means, we no longer give the wrongs power. It also means we recognize there is a growth process and we are looking to contribute to it.

The importance of forgiveness lays in how our creator views us. We have free will, and can do what we choose. However, anything that we do that goes against gods will, will is in a state of harmony with everything love. We create karmic imprints in our life. Creating more of these experiences for us to teach each other in order for us to grow.

So when I say Forgiveness is key.  It is key for our own growth in life.

Janessa Rose Perez